Harvey Fierstein once said:
“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life; define yourself.”
I think one of the advantages of being in the LGBT community, is that we are uniquely forced to define ourselves (i.e. come out) in order to seek true happiness & fulfillemnt. Those of us who are openly gay, bi, or trans, had to go through a process of self-discovery and acceptance, that our straight and/or cis-gendered (look it up) counterparts didn’t get to go through, and as a result, we have a bit of an advantage that others may not have.
Think about it…your personal coming out story says so much about your strengths, resources, abilities, coping strategies, and identity, right? (Hint: The answer is yes!) And now, if you can recognize what you were able to do then, to get to where you are now, you get to use those same amazing skills to further move towards your own personal happiness. You get to decide what fulfillment looks like to you, and then you can simply call on those already proven skills to help get you there.
So…what are your unique skills?
What is your definition of happiness/fulfillment for your life?
Which of those skills that you have already used, can you call on again to get closer to that definition?
How will you know you’re getting closer?
Get the idea?