Family Vs. “Family”: Tip #4 for the Upcoming Holidays
So, here is the last tip for the LGBT community, regarding the upcoming holidays. If you've followed the previous 3 tips, then you've now got an idea of how you would like things to be, you've recognized what's going well and how you will notice things getting better,...
read moreFamily Vs. “Family”: Tip #3 for the Upcoming Holidays
Alright, so this is the 2nd to the last tip for the upcoming holiday season for my LGBT family. Tip #1 was about detailing your very best hopes for the season ahead, & tip #2 was about recognizing both past and current progress. So, once you've done those things...
read moreFamily Vs. “Family”: Tip #2 for the Upcoming Holidays
Alright, as promised, here is tip #2 in the continuing series for the the LGBT community regarding the holiday season that is fast approaching.Tip #1 was about creating a detailed picture of how you hope the holidays will look, both for the purpose of getting on the...
read moreFamily Vs. “Family”: Tip #1 for the Upcoming Holidays
As the “Family” counselor in Dallas, and as someone who is a native and openly gay Texan, I am completely aware that for individuals, couples & families in the LGBT community, the holidays can bring about a unique kind of stress. A stress around who your family...
read moreAccidentally Solution-Focused
Before I became a solution-focused therapist, I was unintentionally doing some very solution-focused things in my personal life.For example, when I was in my undergrad program, I experienced my first real heartbreak, and it was incredibly tough for me to get through...
read moreThe Deathbed Experiment
Here's another little challenge for you to try, that may help you be closer to your best tomorrow.If your doctor told you today, this is it..you are sure to meet your demise here in the coming weeks, and there's just nothing to be done about it. As you look back over...
read moreThe Best Audience Ever
I love conducting trainings for professionals, and classes for parents and other adults in the community where I work. I always start these presentations off with an activity to get the audience going, and this is one of my favorites:Think for just a minute about 5...
read moreSimple Wisdom
When I was in high school, I learned from my eye doctor that some people who have bad eye sight, eventually end up blind in old-age. Being a kid who wore glasses since kindergarden, this worried me a lot, and I shared my concern with one of my favorite teachers at the...
read moreThe Solution Blueprint
When you and your loved one's are not getting along so well, wouldn't it be nice to be able to pull out a blueprint for how to get things back on track? I mean, we all know each other's buttons right? The folks you love MOST in this world all know exactly what to do...
read moreAmplifying Hope
I was recently talking to new a client who wanted nothing more than to feel happier again. She had been to counselor after counselor throughout her adult life, not really feeling helped in the way she hoped to, and so a few weeks ago she started looking for something...
read moreAbout Me
I am a solution-focused therapist and author of the book, Solution Focused Brief Therapy with the LGBT Community: Creating Futures through Hope and Resilience from Routledge Publications.