Recently, someone I care about has been having a very hard time. She has been pretty noticeably down, feeling stressed and sad, and for some pretty good reasons. She’s had a lot of friends get sick lately, and one recently passed away, and then she got injured herself. It’s just been a really rough few months.
I was with this loved one yesterday, and I noticed her laughing at something, then as she was cleaning her kitchen, she was humming a bit to herself and she got some small but good news, and she celebrated with her arms raised and a little shout. As I was leaving her company last night, I thought to myself, ‘she really seems like she’s feeling better.’, and then, I turned to her and I told her that I noticed her laughing again and smiling, and that it seemed as though she must be feeling better. She thought about it for a second, and she said, “Yeah, I guess I am!”, and then we bid each other good bye and I left.
Since then, I’ve been thinking a lot about that, and how we are typically really good at noticing when our loved ones aren’t quite themselves, when they’re feeling down or anxious, but are we quite as good at noticing when they bounce back? What difference might it make if we all paid a little closer attention to the better days we have, especially when we’re going through a rough patch?
Here’s to noticing that bounce,